NOTE: This section is mostly excerpted from Memetic Speaking Practice #5.

We are trained to use highly verbal, definition-oriented, conceptual interactions to the degree that our primary approach in human encounter spaces is from our mind. A Possibilitator strives to access additional functionalities of our 5-Body system in order to produce nonlinear possibility results, such as healing, thoughtware upgrade, authentic adulthood initiatory processes, transformation, etc. which depend on spaces with enough clarity and consistency that participants can go through Liquid States using resources beyond the mind.

How can we access and navigate the memetic nature of our encounters? You can start by making friends with the General Field of Consciousness. You can have it become your ally, even though it has aspects and qualities that no human being ever tapped into or utilized before, and it is far too vast and complex to filter through your mind.

If your mind is the governor of your work space, it is far too rigid and linear to permit the General Field of Consciousness to be used as a resource. It is possible to gain unconditional access to the memetic qualities of the General Field of Consciousness in your workspace unfiltered by the mind. This involves developing a new sensing of what is possible in the field.

Respecting and utilizing the Archetypal aspects of Memetic Speaking can bring even logistical communications extraordinarily alive.

Is the lymphatic system part of the Memetic Antennae for receiving and transmitting Memetic intimacies?

What do you come into a space with, in terms of your Memetic Intentions? If the remnants of your Survival Strategy are not fully digested, then you may come into a Space fearful, wary of being hurt, adaptive, invisible, asking whose space this is. Am I accepted here? Trying to be perceived as a 'nice' person, not as a collaborative researcher.

Imagine if 10 Memetic Collaborators come into a space in order to feed the Memetic Structure of the the Context of the Space so that the Space feeds them in return!

Your Inner Structure is made out of Memes. How can we help each other build an Inner Structure with Memes that are exotic enough to serve as a Trainer, Spaceholder or Gameworld Builder?

What is the Inner Structure of a Trainer or a Gameworld Builder?

What can we become capable of creating or navigating with an Inner Structure that is both flexible and resilient?

How can we gain access to the Memes for an Inner Structure that allows us to perceive and work with not yet visible potentials?

How to hold space for and navigate the Liquid States for Memetic evolutions or transformations that give you Agency with bringing about invisible potentials?

What Memetic Inner Structure permits a person the Hit Bottom and stay there productively?

What kind of new Memetic Tools can we build for doing new Memetic Jobs?

What are the strengths of Memetic Materials to be clear about while building new Memetic Constructs to use as Memetic Tools or Inner Constructs of new design and purpose?

How can we build the Memetic Tools for doing the Memetic Jobs that never existed before?

What do keystone Memes look like, and where do they belong in your Inner Construct?

How to detect and remove or neutralize Toxic Memes that come from psychological survival strategies, religions, corporate advertising?

How do we scan for crippling Memes so we can use the standard Memetic Surgery Tools to bring a person into their own presence and Agency?

So many valuable potentials are deeply blocked by unconsciously carried Memes.

A Liquid State is absolutely neutral, whereas the Swamp maintains some kind of position such as 'I am wrong' or 'Nobody understands me'.

What is a Memetic Liquid State if Memes land in the Being and Build Matrix?

Using the question, "Could you imagine that...?" as a Memetic Tool to help establish the skeleton of a new Memetic Construct. "What if the Memetic Construct goes like this instead...?" Using the Client's imagination to make a 'blue-print' for how to redesign the Inner Construct of their Memetics.

You can use the Imagination as a temporary glue to hold Memes together in a new pattern during a Memetic Surgery until the Memetic Construct holds together by itself through making a new kind of Memetic Sense.

It is a Memetic Breakthrough when someone says, "Whoa! I never thought of that before!"

In terms of memetic speaking and experiential space, the distinction is what I wanted to hear more about, to be moved into the experiential space of my inner and outer wars: what are my strategies to create inner and outer war, what am I unaware of? If you bring me into the clarity of where I am. My 'x' on the map - which is amazingly similar to your strategies, and that's why you can talk about it with such clarity - then I have the necessity to go somewhere else. How can I go somewhere else? You have the answer: Anger. I am ready to listen. You are not saying where I am going, you are only offering the space for practicing and discovering a new useful tool. What I do with it is up to me.

This is because Memetic Speaking is NOT about words.

It is not about finding words, playing with words, speaking words over there to someone else, or thinking words.

Words exist in the mind.

Mind is the prison.

Last week's Memetic Speaking Spaceholding #8 was painful for me because it looked like you were looking in your mind for words, so then as a result the space was vacant, dead. There was no spaceholder. There was a mental acrobat looking for words.

What I suggest it that Memetic Speaking is about meaning.

Meaning happens before words, even without words.

After there is meaning, then words can be found - if necessary - and used to build bridges so that meaning can go from one person to another. That is all words are, parts of bridges if necessary. If both people are on the same side of a bridge, no words are needed.

Meaning has value. Words are only tools to transport meaning.

This could be an entirely new start for you, Sir. For everyone!

Words happen in the mind.

Where does meaning happen? NOT IN THE MIND.

Find out clearly where meaning happens. Figure out how to live there...

Could we start again, please?

• Shift from 'I' to 'you'. When you use 'you', the distinction becomes much closer to the participant. Otherwise, they can keep it away from them - they can think " oh it is her experience, it is not mine".
  
• Avoid using 'it' when you are referring to the distinction, say the distinction instead. For example, instead of saying "It can be..." keep landing the distinction in your participants matrix "Your energetic center can be in the future. Your energetic center can be in the past...") It might sound like you are repeating yourself over and over again, and that is how the distinction can go through the Box of your participants. Distinction need to be said over and over again. It makes the distinction sharper and real, present.
  
• Be clear about what you mean. In Memetic Speaking you mean every word that you say. For example, when you say "my center jumps..." - no it does not, what happens is that you give your center away. That is the distinction. A jumping center is not as useful a distinction as giving your center away to land in someone Memetic structure.
  
• Be very attentive when we say: "You have the power to choose". If somebody does not carry a distinction in their Being, then they DO NOT have the power to choose (which means truly taking responsibility), because they cannot even distinguish the possibility of that choice (remember when you did not know that you had a center, could you choose where it would go? No). Therefore, it is your job not to tell them they have choice BUT to provide them with the transformation that will allow them to choose.

These hints makes your speaking meaningful and real so that the distinctions can go through your Box, and through the Box of your participant into their Being. You are not giving them an interesting story to think about, you are building new clarity into their Being.

The practice to develop the skill of landing distinctions (aka Memetic Speaking).

Here are some offers for you to keep practicing landing distinction in 5 bodies:

• If you speak in 'I', it makes the content of your communcation about you instead of about your participants. Your participants come to your spaces so you can give them a clear 'x' on the map, not present them with your 'x' on the map. This is why when you land distinctions, your main support is to scan your participants and tell them where they are; using the distinction that you are wanting to land. There is no judgment in giving them their 'x' on the map, it is a neutral assessment of reality.
  
• Notice your own memes when you are speaking memetically. Judgements, Assumptions, Conclusions and Beliefs are memes, not very useful ones in terms of creating Extraordinary, but memes nonetheless. For example, when you started speaking about other people's relationship, you shift into a judgmental, or resentful tone, as if having an enmeshed relationship or childish reaction is bad. Does that make any sense to you that you might have the idea that not having a "perfect" relationship means that you are bad or you are a bad man, or ...? This would then be an EHP for you.
  
• Holding space for transformation is not about what you want or what you don't want. It is about providing new clarity / new thoughtware. You mention about 20 different core distinctions in less than 4 minutes without deepening any of them. In reality, every one of these distinctions are crucial to creating extraordinary relationship. And simply mentioning them creates no clarity and no transformation.
  
• The proposal is to choose 1 or 2 distinctions and diving into them: what does it mean to be centered? how does one give their center away to their partner? what are their benefits to giving your center away? (resentment, blame, victimhood, hatred, ...) what are the results in the relationship? what are the result in their life? (Make it painfully true. When a woman gives her center away to a man, she plays the little girl who wants to be admired by daddy.) How can you notice when you give your center away? What can you do then? And more... You could have a Rage Club only about Centering.
  
• Choose the distinction to deepen that is the most relevant for you. What are you practicing or noticing in your relationship? Then you deliver this distinction, you will have flesh and juice to bring to the research.